A friend of mine had a great quote in his MSN name the other day, it read: ?A compromise is an agreement whereby both parties got what neither of them wanted?. This gave me a good chuckle when I thought about the office I work at and how the managers seemed to always come to a ?compromise? that left both of them feeling unhappy. Relationships are no different! Compromise is an absolute must for any healthy relationship but you have to compromise in the right way or you may both end up feeling unhappy with the outcome.
Take a step back from everything ? This may sound like an odd tip for an article about compromising but I think it?s probably the most important, particularly if you are in a long term relationship. It is very easy to get caught up in some kind of power battle with your partner where you feel you need to have things your way or you can only do certain things. If your partner suggests a new date location (for example) don?t straight away put it down but rather take a few minutes and take a step back from your relationship. Would it be the end of the world to go skiing, boating, to a romantic comedy or whatever date suggestion your partner made? ?If it?s not a big deal, don?t make it one!
Make 2 stops ? Even the most rock solid couples can?t always enjoy the same cuisine. Sometimes you just really feel like binging on McDonalds whilst your partner feels like a nice healthy salad. The easiest solution to this particular problem would be to just get a salad from McDonalds but I suspect a true health fiend may find this offensive! So what is the solution? Why not just make 2 stops? Don?t hold a grudge against your partner just because they want to eat something different. It?s funny how something as simple as food choice can sometimes cause issues in a relationship but a simple compromise can just as easily take away the conflict. Don?t get angry, get the chicken you crave without the drama!
Take it in turns ? I?m a strong believer in trying to find things to do together that you will both enjoy but if it?s really impossible then you need to take turns. There?s a couple of ways to do this to keep everyone happy (depending on how much your partner hates your choices of course): Firstly, why not plan your night out with 2 or more venues in mind. This allows you each to choose a location on the same night and hopefully you both will have fun! For bigger dates or vacations you will have to alternate. In these instances the more you can compromise without being too disappointed the better. If one of you wants to go surfing but the other wants to shop then try and find a venue with great surfing and great shopping (I?m sure that?s not hard). Compromise is one of the keys to a successful relationship!
Source: http://www.loverelationshipsanddating.com/compromise-is-needed-for-a-healthy-relationship/
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