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The week of February 7th to?14th is National Marriage Week.? During this week, businesses, churches and even some political figures join forces to strengthen marriages?and promote the benefits of marriage: better health, wealth, and happiness.? The collaboration seeks to improve marriages by having individuals converse about ways to improve their own relationships.
It seems as though marriage has become a dying commitment with the divorce rate somewhere between 40 and 50%.? According to Forest institute?of Professional Psychology, the divorce rate for first marriages is 41%, second marriages?is 60%, and the percentages continue to climb as the number of multiple marriages?climb.? And, fewer people are getting married nowadays. I?believe highlighting marriage and?its benefits is a good thing.? Although, anyone who is married or?has ?ever been married will tell you it takes much longer than a week to strengthen it.? Nevertheless, It is vitally important to start the conversation about how this commitment can get strong and stay strong.
Troubles in marriage?are inevitable.? There is a long list of things that can go wrong and? leave the parties in the marriage looking for a way out.? Financial trouble. Troubles caused by sickness and disease. Infidelity troubles.? Children troubles.? Mother-in-law troubles.? Father-in-law troubles and so many more problems that cause conflict.? Before the divorce actually?takes place?each party has to see it as an option.? That is where I believe?the ?problem lies.? Couples simply give up.? Our commitment muscles atrophy and we want nothing?more than?to be free.
The commitment to marriage is? different from the commitment in other relationships.?? Marianne Williamson says it better.? ?Why is marriage?a more profound commitment than other forms of relationships, such as a couple who are living together?? Because it is an agreement that, while a whole lot of shaking and screaming might go on no one?s going to leave the room.? We are both safe to go through whatever emotion is called forth from deep within us?but it is safe to do that here. No one is leaving.?? Commitment!
For all those of you out there shaking your heads and saying that I?m not a realist,? hold up.? I?m well aware that two people are capable of having a committed?relationship without being married.? I?m also aware that not every marriage will last.? There are?of course situations where?it may not be safe or healthy to continue. ?But I still believe it is important to elevate the institution of marriage.? And,? to also encourage those who want to stay married.
Marriage is a gift from God.? If you are married or in a committed relationship and you want to strengthen that relationship, spend some time this week focusing on how you can make it better.? Have a date night.? Spend some time listening to your spouses? needs and then do something to meet those needs.? Start the conversation on how you might improve as a couple.
Here?s what I?m doing to improve my relationship this week:
Complimenting my spouse everyday this week.
Kissing and hugging my spouse more that usual
Letting my spouse watch sports without asking any questions
Flirting with him while we are in? public
That?s all.
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Is anyone else gonna join me?? What will you do this week ( and hopefully more often) to improve your?marriage /relationship?
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Quotes from A RETURN TO LOVE by Marianne Williamson-? great book by the way!
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